We're all in Love

Before I get on to what I want to talk about today, I want to share two pieces of news with you. One is great and one is rather upsetting...what do you want first? Well, I'll get the bad out the way. Tony Curtis died on Wednesday, and if you don't know who he was, you're an uncultured moron ;). He was a brilliant actor, comic and for more serious roles. His best role was probably in the film Some Like it Hot alongside the equally brilliant Jack Lemmon and the vastly underrated Marilyn Monroe. He fathered the acting talent that is Janet Leigh Curtis, and he claimed to have bedded many women (that's more amusing than something to be admired) He was a true great, that shall be missed.... In case you think I'm an idiot and don't know what I'm talking about, here's a scene from Some Like it Hot which always makes me laugh. 

Tony Curtis

On the up side of life...I performed stand up (also on the Wednesday night) for the first time. Essentially, it was an open mic night, and I wasn't planning to perform, but I gave it a go...as I have thought of things I might use if I ever did stand up. You'll be pleased to know I didn't crash and burn, and it was surprisingly well received. I only did about two minutes of material, but people laughed and I may write some prepared stuff so I can fill the whole five minutes for next time (as that's all the time you get). I would share my material, but I don't want you stealing it you unfunny people ;)

I'll let that lie now, and talk about my original thoughts for this week's blog. It's about the use of the word love. It's an odd topic I know, and also a couple of my recent blogs have been about sex and love in general...so you must be sick of it. But I think it is important as love is a word people use a lot...without really meaning it. I do it, most people do it because it's quite hard to know when to say it. Of course, there's that possibility of the awful moment when your partner says that they love you and you think "Do I love them yet?" As you've hesitated, they know you don't and they look really hurt, and you'll feel guilty for something perfectly reasonable. Love is a delicate thing and should only be spoken of when you're really sure.

Easy peasy right? Wrong. I don't think anyone can define love, it's just something we think we know. However, love can be easily confused with lust or passion. I'll be honest, I'm twenty and I'm not sure if I can say if what I've felt for certain people is love. It's also a problem when you really like someone, and would gladly tell them  you love them every second of the day, but then that's impossible but also rather clingy and then the word loses its meaning. I know words are just words, but the connotations, context and delivery should also be special for certain words. If you call someone a wanker, mean it yeah? ;) 

One thing that really frustrates me is the use of the word love to friends. I do it too, but then we established long ago that I'm a hypocrite. I think it's okay in small quantities but at the core love is a word used to describe the feeling, well you can't define it as we've said, but it's a feeling between two people that goes deeper than friendship. Otherwise, you'd just be friends. So telling all your best buddies you love them then it sort of ruins the whole point? God people are thick.  It's especially bad when bloody drunken idiots throw the word around. "I love you man", no you don't you're drunk and an idiot and when you're sober we hardly talk you absolute moron. I need a bit of a rant, recently I've been too depressed to rant, so apologies if that's what you come to read each week, a splurge of angry bile on a web page...sorry if I've let you down, I know I'm a disappointment. 

So yeah, just food for thought, don't over use and don't blithely use it. I know it's a word, but for me the meaning is just as important. If I called you a cunt every day, three times a day, it would just become routine. If you're lucky enough to have someone you may love, or there is love there, then make them know you love them by all means, but don't over do it you big hapless romantic! The song is one by The New York Dolls...because we all think we're in love...but ask yourself, are you? 

Now go away.